Hidden Playroom FAQ

What is Swinging?

What was once considered wife swapping in the past, swinging has grown to include a wide range of sexual activities. Also known as the Lifestyle, it is a broad term that refers to engaging in varying degrees of non-monogamous sex.

What sort of people are Swingers?

The people involved in this Lifestyle consist of a large cross section of people. Swingers come from all walks of life, in all shapes, sizes and ages. Upon average, it appears that most couples are in their late twenties to late forties but there are many other ages from 21 through "senior years"! There all types of people in the Lifestyle with all types of careers from A to Z.. Some of the most common similarities that Swingers share include a sense of adventure, a love for new experiences and meeting new friends, honesty and an open mind, respect for others, and most of all, a very strong, secure and loving relationship with their partner.

I think I am interested in a Swinging. What should I do?

Once you have all the facts, the decision will be a little easier. Like anything else in life, the first time may be a little uncomfortable because you have not participated in the activity before and do not know what to do. This is perfectly normal. Contact a local Swingers Club and explain your interests. They should be able to offer advice, contacts to speak with or meet, and places where you can go to socialize with Swingers on a platonic basis.

I want to be very discreet in my activities. What are the different ways to make contacts with others interested in Swinging?

Established Swingers Clubs are very professional and discreet, as are the people who attend. Other alternatives are Swinger websites such as Hiddenplayroom.com where you can find other like minded individuals, special events, meet and greets and resorts that cater to the sexually adventurous.

Is the Lifestyle all about sex?

No!! The Lifestyle is about more then just sex. As a matter of fact you will probably find that more often then not nothing sexual happens. The Lifestyle is about meeting people and making friends who are a lot like you-uninhibited, open minded, non-judgemental, sexually expressive and open to enjoying life. You will meet many new friends to go out with, cook with, travel with and enjoy the many things the Lifestyle has to offer.

How do we deal with jealousy?

The main ways to combat feelings of jealousy is to keep in mind that this is something you are doing together. You are a team; you are not in competition with each other. Also keep in mind that the Lifestyle will not fix a bad relationship. You have to have a strong trusting relationship with good lines of communication before you begin to participate in the Lifestyle.

What are the general rules of swinging?

The Golden Rule... No means NO! Keep in mind that "Yes" can at anytime be changed to NO!

• Be honest. This doesn’t mean you have to share every private aspect of your life, but if you are married and swinging alone then be honest about it.
• Be polite. If you aren't interested in someone who has shown interest a simply no thank you will suffice.
• Don't take it personally. Remember that just because a couple is in the lifestyle it doesn't mean that they will play with everyone.
• Cleanliness is a turn-on, remember to bath, brush your teeth, use mouth wash, carry breath mints, and clean under your nails. Pedicures and manicures are always a good idea from a visual as well as hygienic point of view.
• Don't pile on the perfume or cologne, remember some people are allergic. Remember to make sure you are fresh from a shower and have an overall fresh clean smell.
• Never be pushy.
• Never come between other couples.
• Don't get drunk. While a glass or two of wine can take the edge off of an otherwise stressful moment, don't get sloppy. If you have to get drunk to play then you really shouldn't be playing.
• Never make plans with only half of a couple (male or female) unless everyone, including your partner, is aware of the arrangements and is in agreement with them.
• Everyone is entitled to his and her privacy. Regardless of the level of privacy you require never "out" another person. Never share their photos with anyone else. If you share a story about an escapade remember to keep other's names private. Stated simply - never kiss and tell 
• Always make sure you carry your own condoms.
• During threesomes and foursomes, if at any point one of the people feel uncomfortable all play should stop.
• Never feel pressured to do anything you are not comfortable doing (even for your partner).
• Whether you are a couple or single male when approaching a couple, men should always approach the male half of a couple first. Shake his hand and introduce yourself. Approaching the wife first is considered very offensive to almost all couples.
• Always practice safe sex. Many couples do not make use of condoms within their relationship. However when venturing outside the relationship you owe it to yourself, your partner as well as any future play partners to take every step to ensure yours and their safety.

A link to some swinger terminology

www.swingersdictionary.com